We are multi-dimensional beings and so are their children. We need to nurture and nourish not only the body (physical dimension) but also the mental, emotional and spiritual dimensions for ourselves and our children.

Learning the tools and techniques for total wellbeing so we can create our best life.

Learning to become aware of our filters, biases, judgements and expectations and able to see ourselves and our children as a whole being, not only what we want to see. Each of us is unique and there is no normal or perfect.

We either become overly attached to fulfilling the child’s needs or find it so difficult and uncomfortable that we begin to deny those needs and pretend they don’t exist or cope through unhealthy means like binge eating, watching, shopping etc.

Learn to understand all types of needs, not only physical. Learn healthy ways to meet your own unmet needs. Heal from the trauma and pain of not having the love and support you needed in your earlier years and free a up lot of energy.

As we do this, we are able to see, acknowledge and attend to our children’s needs more clearly and objectively without being coloured by our own lingering unmet needs.

Master self-regulation of your own emotions and hold space for the child’s emotions

One of the biggest challenges in parenting is communication, or the lack of it. All relationships need good communication to sustain and thrive.

Understand your communication strengths and challenges. Learn ways to communicate with clarity and compassion.

Communication is more about listening than saying. Develop deep and active listening.

To raise our children, we need to raise ourselves first. We need to become fully functional adults. We need to connect and heal our inner children.

Updating our belief system, letting go of limiting beliefs and adopting new ones to be in line with who we wish to be.

Developing a growth mindset and stepping out of our comfort zone

We all want freedom, including our children. Freedom doesn’t come without responsibility. Learn to own up and take responsibility without blaming yourself or others. Model this behaviour to teach your kids – walk the talk.

None of us is an accident. Life is not a struggle or punishment. We are all here to learn, grow and thrive.

One of the biggest challenges most people face, be it personal relationships or professional, is trust. What is trust? Do we find it hard to trust or trust too much?

Overcome self-doubt and anxiety, learn the fundamentals of trust and how to build trust in yourself, life and the universe.

Perfection is a myth. It is a self sabotaging tendency. Set high standards but do not chase perfection.

In trying to be perfect we are always falling short of some imaginary unreasonable standard set mostly by us.

Detachment isn’t disconnection and attachment isn’t connection. Attachment is fear driven while connection is driven by love. Detachment isn’t indifference. It is giving your best and staying neutral towards outcomes. Attachment leads to rescuing and control. Detached connection is freedom and trust.

All relationships need healthy boundaries. Families should not have boundaries is a myth that has created too much confusion and too much pain. Healthy boundaries are not rigid walls to keep others out. They are more like fences and doors. They are permissions that we choose to honour ourselves and others.

These boundaries change from time to time, depending on the age of the child. Each family has to decide what is right for them, there is no one size fits all.